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General purpose rules of engagement and intro post

December 31st, 2020 (10:00 pm)


  • If you've found my journal, hello! Pull up a virtual chair, put your feet up, have a cup of tea (or drink of your choice). You are very very welcome!

  • I was Friends-only for a while. I'm not any more, but quite a lot of my posts before about mid-2007 are still Friends-only. Generally speaking, unless I'm making posts that are really only for me (lists of things to do) or for specific friends ('phone number or "this is what I look like for when we meet up" posts), my posts tend to be public.

  • That said, I compensate for being rather shy and introverted IRL by being very eager to make new friends on line. If I've Friended you, it's unlikely to be entirely random - either we share a few interests, or some mutual LJ friends, or we know each other IRL, or I've noticed you commenting in a community or on an LJ friends' post and I think you seem interesting or worth knowing. Obviously, you don't have to Friend me back, but I'd certainly appreciate it. Who wouldn't?

  • If you decide to Friend me, please say "hi" by adding a comment to this post.

  • I can be a bit tactless myself, but I tend to start out from a position of trying to be nice and polite to everyone. If I inadvertantly manage to offend or upset you, please bear that in mind. Likewise, if you accidentally offend or upset me, I'll be more than ready to forgive and forget ('cos life's too short, frankly). But if you're deliberately unpleasant or rude or jerk me around...well, I might take exception to that.

  • There are a few things about me that you may consider it worth knowing before you decide to Friend me:

  • I'm married to a wonderful lady by the name of Sarah. We've been together since October 2004 and married in September 2009. Sarah can also be found here on LJ (her user name is huntingospray. Pop over and say "hi" to her - she doesn't bite.

  • We've recently (well, September 2010) moved into Hemel Hempstead in Hertfordshire. Still kind of finding our feet there, but we're happy there. We have some lovely neighbours.

  • I'm bisexual. That doesn't mean that I'm sexually promiscuous or anything like that - there are a few men that I think are rather attractive, and indeed a few women that I find rather attractive, but I'm entirely monogamous and utterly faithful to Sarah. If you have a problem with me being bisexual, Friending me may not be a terribly good idea.

  • I write and read slash fiction, both fanfic and original - again, if you have a problem with that, you may want to think twice about Friending me. Generally speaking, any fic I write (which is pretty infrequent, I've got to admit) is hidden underneath an LJ cut, so you don't have to read it if you don't want to. I try to tag my entries, but more of them are untagged than are tagged. That said, if you actually want to read my fiction, there is a tag for it, and also I tend to add it to my Memories. Also, I have a goal of wanting to write a novel.

  • Generally, I'm pretty pro-gay rights and pro-gay marriage, and all told a bit of a liberal. Indeed, I'm fairly left-leaning politically.

  • I'm also a Christian. Sarah and I have yet to properly settle at a church in Hemel, but we'll probably settle at the local Methodist church.

  • Anything else you need to know about me, you can probably get from my LJ User Info.

  • I'm not sure where my default Userpic came from. When I find out, I'll post a link.

Comments

Posted by: ((Anonymous))
Posted at: August 23rd, 2008 06:34 pm (UTC)
Greetings

Hi David!

Just wanted to say I've really appreciated your posts in christianforums.com. I have encountered a lot of hostility (and I would venture to say, stupidity) there ... and having a person like you around has been a breath of fresh air. I am an atheist, as is shown in my christianforums information, but you have made me feel that it is actually possible to talk to
religious people and have a meaningful conversation!

With all good wishes
Andrew (Andreusz)

andrewvanderspuy@gmail.com

Posted by: flamingfemme (aka Katie) (flamingfemme)
Posted at: September 8th, 2008 08:27 pm (UTC)
Salutations. :)

Just like the person above me, I also appreciate your posts on CF. As a pagan, and as a queer person, I have really enjoyed your input on various subjects. Would you mind if I Friend you? I don't post on LJ as often as I'd like, but I try to update periodically.
Hope you're having a wonderful day.

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: September 8th, 2008 08:54 pm (UTC)
Re: Salutations. :)

Hi there! Yeah, I don't mind at all if you Friend me.

Nope, today's been crap, to be honest, but little things are cheering me up (like your cake or death icon!!! *g* )

Posted by: flamingfemme (aka Katie) (flamingfemme)
Posted at: September 9th, 2008 02:06 pm (UTC)
Re: Salutations. :)

I'm sorry about the crap day. Having a chronic pain disorder, I can TOTALLY relate. But, YAY for Eddie Izzard making it that much better. :)

Posted by: love me home (cariad_me_home)
Posted at: September 18th, 2008 01:38 pm (UTC)

hey i stumbled across you while reading the christianity friends list. can i friend you?

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: September 19th, 2008 10:08 am (UTC)

Yeah, sure!

Posted by: Avon (nightporters)
Posted at: October 7th, 2008 08:07 pm (UTC)

Hi,

Hope you don't mind me commenting.

I came over randomly via one of the LOM comms and noticed you're a Christian. Nice to find another Christian on one of my comms (LoM, Dr Who etc). I'm an Anglican. Best wishes for the wedding.

Posted by: ((Anonymous))
Posted at: November 2nd, 2008 11:48 am (UTC)
A few questions for you....

Hi David,

I'd be interested to know how you can be a Christian and pro-gay/pro gay marriage, for the bible is quite clear in its teaching about same sex relationships?

Leviticus 18:22
"Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable."

True Christianity is not meant to fit into our own ideas or lifestyle and it is not pick and choose according to what this liberal world believes and what its people find acceptable. Through our love for God and relationship with him we should seek to obey his word and live accordingly. Otherwise we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.

Christianity by its very nature is Conservative, not liberal and so flies in the face of what the world finds acceptable. This I believe is the whole point. What is the point of dumbing down the truth so that it is acceptable to unbelievers to the point where what they come to follow is a deception of the truth and effectively a Cult and not true Christianity at all?

I would steer clear of "Christian mysticism and/or some kind of Pagan/Christian hybrid" as this is a deception/perversion of the truth and will only blind you from the truth and deceive you. Better to give up on Christianity completely and live your life according to the world's values than try to half follow something that in reality is not Christianity at all. Its like trying to combine Voodoo with Christianity!

Posted by: Daibhid C (daibhid_c)
Posted at: June 3rd, 2009 11:46 am (UTC)
Re: A few questions for you....

I believe the standard response to people who quote the bit of Levticus they happen to agree with is to ask them if they're also pro-slavery, and anti-people wearing mixed fibres? Do you even keep kosher?

You might also be interested in researching the history of Voodoo, which started out as a synthesis of African beliefs and, yes, Roman Catholicism. (As Terry Pratchett puts it, Voodoo is a do-it-yourself religion, made out of whatever comes to hand.)

Posted by: 72stroopwafels (72stroopwafels)
Posted at: November 14th, 2008 01:35 pm (UTC)

Hi! I'm Pogue on CF, always enjoyed seeing your posts there, and it's nice to discover your blog too! Mind if I friend you?

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: November 14th, 2008 03:40 pm (UTC)

Course I don't mind! It's nice to be reminded that there are sane people on CF..! *g*

Posted by: gervase_fen (gervase_fen)
Posted at: February 13th, 2009 11:52 pm (UTC)
plan d

Hi

Shared love of creepy short stories from the late 70s!

Posted by: Suit & Tie Guy (suitandtieguy)
Posted at: March 24th, 2009 07:22 pm (UTC)
commenting here as i'm a banned user at Doctorwho
Cyberman

don't forget The Cybermen:

http://www.myspace.com/thecybermen

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Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: December 11th, 2009 11:52 am (UTC)

Yeah, no problem! Welcome!

Posted by: Luna (lunadeath02)
Posted at: January 28th, 2010 06:41 pm (UTC)
The Master - LOLinternets

Hi there. :) I saw you in someone's journal (comm?), and was wondering if you wouldn't mind me friending you? I am also bisexual, liberal, but not very religious. But I have many friends online and RL that have very different backgrounds and believe in different things, and I'm as open as possible with others. It does not bother me at all what religion a person is, as long as they're nice and have many scruples (which you seem to have!). Also, I am a Doctor Who fan. ^___^

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: January 29th, 2010 11:06 am (UTC)

Yeah, no problam - Friend away. :o)

Posted by: nekosensei (nekosensei)
Posted at: May 27th, 2010 06:20 pm (UTC)
Doctor Who -- Love This Show

Hey fellow Doctor Who fan! I'm here from geek_girls_anon. You looked interesting so I friended you.

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: May 28th, 2010 06:27 am (UTC)

Friending you back!

Posted by: Electric Sunshine Dimmer Switch (diamonddustshoe)
Posted at: July 1st, 2010 06:33 am (UTC)

I hit that "Try a random journal" button they've put in, and it sent me here, which is really something, since we do have one friend in common...

Tell me, is that Adric in one of your icons?? *squee*

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: July 1st, 2010 10:50 am (UTC)
Doctor Who - Ooh nice arse

Nothing in life is ever *truly* random, that's what I reckon!

And yes, that's Adric. I have no excuse, I was just watching Logopolis one evening and that shot rather stood out and the next thing I know I was making an icon of it and...

*ahem*

Feel free to take and use it!

ETA: And I notice you're in Pasadena - my wife and I were there last summer for a Transformers convention, had a very nice time there - I'd quite like to go back at some point.

Edited at 2010-07-01 10:55 am (UTC)

Posted by: muscadinegirl (muscadinegirl)
Posted at: August 4th, 2010 04:34 pm (UTC)

Hello, you sound like someone I would get along with well. I saw that you're interested in Blake's 7, and, obviously, Dr. Who, and it looks like you enjoy puns.

Posted by: Has Anyone Seen My Scarf? (allyj818)
Posted at: September 1st, 2010 12:11 pm (UTC)

hey :)
I just clicked on your profile and the first thing I saw was Doctor Who so I love you :) (not in a creepy stalker-ish way, more like fan girl being weirdly happy about finding a fellow fan kind of way)
is it ok if I friend you? I've read a few of your posts and I like your style of writing :) (my friend said that sounded creep so, again, not being purposefully creepy :s)I don't really write anything particularly interesting on LJ, I just use it as my online diary :)
Ally xox

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: September 1st, 2010 12:30 pm (UTC)

Yay! for Doctor Who. Yeah, feel free to Friend me.

Posted by: thermalsatsuma (thermalsatsuma)
Posted at: March 11th, 2011 04:36 pm (UTC)

Hi David,

Just a quick note to let you know I've added you as a friend - we seem to have a sizeable crossover of friends and interests!

cheers,

neil h aka thermalsatsuma

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: March 14th, 2011 11:44 am (UTC)

Hi there! Just added you too. Welcome to the asylum. :o)

Posted by: zihacoup (zihacoup)
Posted at: April 13th, 2011 09:13 am (UTC)

Great work keep it coming, best blog on earth

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Posted by: ((Anonymous))
Posted at: August 16th, 2011 12:45 am (UTC)
backlinks service

When will you post again ? Been looking forward to this !

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Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: October 14th, 2011 06:07 pm (UTC)

Certainly you may! We seem to have quite a few interests in common as well as the Doctor, so yes, it'll ben good to get to know you.

Posted by: El Staplador (el_staplador)
Posted at: December 4th, 2011 06:46 pm (UTC)

Hello! Friending, if that's all right - I came across your journal surfing friends of friends. I like Doctor Who and am a bisexual Christian, so we seem to have some things in common.

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: December 5th, 2011 12:42 pm (UTC)

That's quite all right! I've noticed you before on Friends of Friends and thought, "ooh, sounds interesting," but I'm not normally the first one to hit the Friend button. Hello and welcome to my world. :-)

Posted by: CINEASTE--. A film or movie enthusiast. (cinematixyz)
Posted at: December 12th, 2011 03:00 am (UTC)
Brazil

Hello. Love your banner and Dr Who Icon and would love an add =)
Zu

Posted by: curiouswombat (curiouswombat)
Posted at: May 29th, 2012 11:40 am (UTC)
Soup dragon waving

Hi!

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: May 29th, 2012 02:12 pm (UTC)

Hi! Welcome to the madhouse! *admires your Soup dragon userpic*

Posted by: Stevie Carroll (stevie_carroll)
Posted at: February 26th, 2013 10:53 pm (UTC)
A Series of Ordinary Adventures

Hurrah, you seem to have Friended me. I shall do likewise.

Posted by: Caroline M (coth)
Posted at: November 11th, 2013 02:43 pm (UTC)

Hi David. I just pre-supported Dysprosium and found you via your post about that. I'm very fond of Eastercons: thanks for helping to run one.
I'm mostly friend-locked, but post publicly about cons and books.
Looking forward to making your acquaintance.
Caroline

Posted by: Jamie (lifefailsme)
Posted at: December 19th, 2013 02:29 pm (UTC)
Doctor Who - The Doctor #11

Jaded Jamie Images Inc



;)

Posted by: Trystan (trystan830)
Posted at: September 18th, 2014 02:26 pm (UTC)
superwholock

so i checked out a link here, and happened to notice your header....awesome!

(i'm sure you've noticed that i've been watching Dr Who from the beginning, starting in July.)

now that i'm up to the end of the 1st season of Troughton, and i do like Jamie, i realised something: i think i miss Ian and Barbara.

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: September 18th, 2014 04:37 pm (UTC)

Must admit, I've not been on LJ much lately (but have made a determined effort to dust it down and use it more often!). Yeah, I've been on a "from the beginning" WhoWatch, but making far slower progress than you, although I will admit that my The Aztecs header is out-of-date - the intention was to update it with each new story I started watching, but I kind of got out of that habit about the time I drifted off to Facebook. I've just finished The Web Planet.

Posted by: Trystan (trystan830)
Posted at: September 18th, 2014 04:42 pm (UTC)
scifi/fantasy 1

i post my pictures here and on facebook. i'm in the middle of The Evil of The Daleks.

Posted by: David Brider (davidbrider)
Posted at: September 18th, 2014 05:06 pm (UTC)

Feel free to add me over on Facebook, should you feel so inclined. :-)

Posted by: Trystan (trystan830)
Posted at: September 18th, 2014 05:17 pm (UTC)

i can do that. =)

Posted by: ladymegsta (ladymegsta)
Posted at: October 2nd, 2014 02:14 pm (UTC)

I just like how you write what you write. Good enough? :-)

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