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October 16th, 2014 (12:02 pm)

Last month, huntingospray treated me to a subscription to Doctor Who Magazine, and last month's issue - as I'd heard is so often the case - arrived the day before the publication was due to hit the newsstands. Yay! Lots of Doctor Who goodness!

This month, however, yesterday - the day before the publication was due to hit the newsstands - the post brought with it...no DWM. No yay.

And today - the day on which the publication is due to hit the newsstands - the post brought with it, again, no DWM. Double no yay.

So, yeah. Disappointed.

Also, the post has started to bring cards of sympathy. Which, whilst appreciated, are making the whole thing seem far far far more real. :-(

Also - what exactly is the etiquette when it comes to cards of sympathy? Am I, as someone who has been affected by the death of a person (i.e. my dad) expected to send cards to other people who have also been affected by his death, or, well, not? I'm a tad confused on that score.

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Posted by: ningloreth (ningloreth)
Posted at: October 16th, 2014 01:50 pm (UTC)

I was sorry to hear about your father.

I think, with the cards, that it tends to be people from outside the immediate family who send them to people inside the immediate family, so I don't think you'd be expected to send them. (I didn't send them to my brothers, for example).

DWM: that sometimes happens to me with DVDs pre-ordered from Amazon.

Posted by: emmzzi (emmzzi)
Posted at: October 16th, 2014 05:39 pm (UTC)

You do nothing with the cards but read them and be happy that people remember. They are not intended to burden you with having to do anything at this time.

Posted by: curiouswombat (curiouswombat)
Posted at: October 16th, 2014 07:02 pm (UTC)
Brooch

Am I, as someone who has been affected by the death of a person (i.e. my dad) expected to send cards to other people who have also been affected by his death, or, well, not?

I would say not - except, perhaps, to your stepmother.

Posted by: Stacey (geekslave)
Posted at: October 16th, 2014 08:57 pm (UTC)
amy rory stare ahead

I don't know what's officially proper etiquette, but when my dad died I didn't send sympathy cards and no one said anything to me about it.

Stacey

Posted by: Ian (ringbark)
Posted at: October 17th, 2014 09:29 am (UTC)
christian flag

On the death of my parents, I sent no cards but received many.
Generally, I would expect to receive cards only from people unable to attend the funeral.
What I encourage you to do (or cause to happen if you feel unable to do it) is ensure that as many of his friends as possible hearing enough time to be able to attend the funeral if they are so minded and able. This, unfortunately, will include people you don't know at all.

Rereading this, I should state that my parents died separately, nearly three years apart.

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